Have you heard any of the rumblings surfacing in the feminist community about the article by By Anne-Marie Slaughter in the July/August 2012 ATLANTIC MAGAZINE issue titled, Why Women Still Can’t Have It All? Well quite honestly, who the hell hasn't been thinking the same damn thing for quite a flipping while now, eh? Seriously, I am here to tell you that it is more than okay to fess up and say, "I can't have it all and frankly I don't want it."
Of course on the flip side to that confession is that it really is important to craft your life to be just the way YOU desire it to be. And that is really the point that should be emphasized here. None of us can live in anyone else's shoes and judgement should be left to those deciding the fate of convicted criminals, not those who are supposed to be our sisters.
It's Not All It's Cracked Up To Be
When I was younger I had a list, a literal list, full of reasons NOT to have children. Then I met my husband in a whirlwind romance that I thought was the most important thing in my life. All I wanted to do was have babies with him. We ended up with three beautiful daughters after years of trying and a number of miscarriages that would make your jaw drop at the thought of our persistence.
I had the cushiest life with my kids until all hell broke loose at the end of 2008. It was time for me to go to back to work and my life changed from being a lady that lunched, volunteered and complained about what a bad job the housekeeper did, to being a lady that worked to pay for lunch, still tried to be the "always there for everything" mom and was on my hands and knees scrubbing floors and cleaning toilets with tears in my eyes - determined to do what was necessary to teach my girls to be self sufficient and strong in the face of every circumstance.
What You Can Do About It
No matter where you are in your life or what kind of mom you envision yourself to be, it is important to be realistic with what you want and craft your life accordingly. Be in touch with what you truly want and then do everything in your power to create the life for your family, and yourself, that you envision. Don't give up, the life you desire is waiting for you and all it needs to become reality, is a little determination.
On Mondays I link up with an amazing group of bloggers from the Skimbaco community. We offer up ideas on finding fulfillment in life, right now, through the little things and not so little things to make the most out of each and every day.
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